3. THE TWIST: So, moving on from the gaining of trust and agreement, you can now take those phrases and start to change their point view. You do this by avoiding words such as ‘but’ (as this creates a break in thought pattern, we expect to hear the word ‘but’ when in conflict or asking for something) and instead use words such as ‘and/ or/ because.’
So, take two statements you agree with such as above and then tag your opinion onto the end.
We do get excited when England play small teams, it does seem to get back to normal when we play someone better, and that is why we need to start supporting the youth teams more.
We do get excited when England play small teams, it does seem to get back to normal when we play someone better, that is why we should start discussing our tactics.
We do get excited when England play small teams, it does seem to get back to normal when we play someone better, and that could be because the press harass the team more.
2. GENERALIZATIONS: You can literally drive someone mad with this, seriously, you have complete permission to do so.
The idea here is to LISTEN genuinely to what they are saying, and to pick out when they are being general and ask them to be more specific. This is the idea of having facts to back up an argument, and the beauty of this is that you don’t need any facts to counter the argument, because they won’t have any either.
So, anytime someone uses words such as… Everyone/ always/ nobody/ every/ all, you can reply by asking them to be more specific.
Everyone on the England squad is useless.
This can be pulled apart from so many angles, whether it is true or not! Firstly, Question what ‘everyone’ means. This will break their rant and cause them to specify. Like a politician caught on live TV being asked to explain their expenses, they will most likely squirm and try to continue generalizing, all you need to do is keep asking, can you specify what you mean by… And the generalization.
If they get a bit shirty, simply explain that you are trying to understand what they mean so that you can truly consider their opinion. This is a silencer on the gun.
1. CHANGE THE SUBJECT: Have you ever found yourself in an arguments with your girlfriend about something trivial, like them leaving the toilet seat down, and then, three days later realized that you are still arguing; but now it’s about the time you stepped on her foot, when you were pissed at her cousin’s dog’s wake.
Welcome to the greatest trick there is. If you ever find yourself losing, either because you don’t actually know what you are talking about, or, because the other person is right, you can always shift the conversation to where you want it to be. All you need to do is, like previously, agree with a couple statements and then use the ‘pivot’ words ‘and/ because…’ and then lead the sentence in another direction.
If you want to be really sneaky, move it to something you know they will agree with, this will create the feeling in them that you have changed their moods somehow.
We do get excited when England play small teams, it does seem to get back to normal when we play someone better, and that’s because our fans feel so passionately about the success of the team, and in many ways the country – that’s a good thing.
We do get excited when England play small teams, it does seem to get back to normal when we play someone better, and personally I blame the government. They are out of control right now.. Did you hear about….
So, there you go.
Use these tools and use them wisely, for those who do not know these ways will bend to your will as if by magic. Try them out, especially on your mates and let me know how it goes.
Until next time.
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